Relationship Therapy
If you clicked on this tab, I’m guessing you might recognize yourself or your partner in one of the following statements.
You want to understand each other better.
You want to communicate more effectively.
You want to feel more connected.
You want to face challenges as a team.
You want to find a rhythm of life that works for both of you.
You want to rekindle, deepen, or perhaps find for the first time, your sexual connection.
My Approach
My approach to relationship therapy centers around the belief that relationships are pathways to healing and growth. Oftentimes, ways of coping we develop to navigate adversity help our individual survival but put up walls that prevent connection and intimacy.
Understanding and reframing these tendencies we all have—like pulling away, shutting down, or people pleasing—typically helps each partner better understand themself and each other. This establishes a baseline of increased compassion and closeness.
Next, I support couples in identifying the cycles of interaction that couples naturally develop and find themselves stuck in, so that we can reroute to somewhere that ultimately feels better. While there are multiple entry points to doing so, most of our sessions will likely involve in the moment processing—that is, delving into a conflict, encountering the unconscious dynamic that needs changing, slowing down and bringing awareness of what is going on, and then beginning to take small steps to shift how you communicate and relate to each other.
I will provide exercises to increase connection, coaching on relational skills and the space to practice them with in the moment support, as well as a contained space to explore territory that typically leads to fighting or stuckness. My role is to provide a holding space where you can both meet your issues head on with the support at hand to help you both slow down, regulate intensity, and step in and steer when necessary.